Hi, I'm Ebony, a smart woman who likes strong coffee, red wine, and takes immense pleasure in pleasure. Think of this as a place where you're encouraged to be your baddest self, love the life you create, and use the F-word whenever you like.
Like so many others, the formidable and early years of my teenage and adult life were spent feeling shameful of any pleasure I took part in. When I became a mother at the ripe old age of 18, I knew things had to change.
It took me more than 10 years of unhealthy dating, broken promises and engagements, lies, and deceit to implement that change.
At the age of 29, I was extremely lucky to find a lover that took care to take care, helped me shed the victimhood and played the part of catalyst on my journey of self-healing and self-knowing.
A responsibility to reconnect to who I was, who I was born to be, and who I knew I could be. To reconnect to whom every single one of us inherently is -- a radiant, worthy, lighthearted being.
So, I dove. Dove headfirst into healing, into evolving, into shining. Into being radically honest with myself about the changes I needed to make.
That radically honest part is key. Because I had to stop bullshitting myself.
Had to stop bullshitting others. Had to release any ideas I had about myself and what others thought of me. Had to dig deep and forgive myself.
Had to give up the idea that society has a say in how I should live, love, dress, and fuck based on their wildly inaccurate ideas of who I was.
When I finally started that, and tasted actual freedom for the first time in my life, there was no going back..
I realized how caged up I had been for almost my entire life. How I had let fear of judgement, failure, lack of self-worth, all the things, prevent me from showing up authentically.
I became Uncaged.
My life started to shape into exactly what I wanted. Love started showing up for me in some of the most delicious and unexpected ways. How radiant and light and full I felt.
And that deliciousness started to spread, quickly morphing into the overwhelming realization of how others must feel. How I wanted others to feel this incredible freedom and find their strength and power and be able to say “Fuck YES!” to themselves, and the magic inside them.